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Preventing Meltdowns: 4 Tips on How to Deal with Temper Tantrums

Preventing Meltdowns: 4 Tips on How to Deal with Temper Tantrums

Around 23-83% of toddlers aged 2-4 years have temper tantrums. These outbursts are due to their still-developing neurological abilities and their limited vocabulary.  

Yet, that doesn't mean you have to endure screaming and destructive behavior. You can learn how to deal with temper tantrums.

Here are 4 tips on how to prevent toddler meltdowns. 

1. Know Your Child's Limits

Us adults are experts at doing a little too much. We are used to squeezing in one more errand. We are accustomed to the feeling of doing too much.

But your little toddler isn't. Be considerate of your child's limits. If she has missed a nap or is hungry, it's not a good idea to go shopping or to run an errand.

Dealing with toddler tantrums is easier when at home than when in a large and loud space like a grocery store checkout line.

2. Be Prepared 

The best way to prevent a temper tantrum is to be armed and ready for whatever you need to do.

This means bringing along an interactive book or toy and a few snacks. Note that offering extra screen time can lead to more tantrums.  Avoid handing over your phone. 

Toddler meltdowns are typically the result of being denied something. By having your own tools at the ready, you can distract and prevent temper tantrums.

3. Give Plenty of Warning

A toddler meltdown often takes place during a transition. Like when it's time to leave the park or friend's house.

Young children like to know what comes next and when. They don't like abrupt changes.

The easiest trick for how to deal with temper tantrums is to prevent them. Whenever there is a transition, give your little one specific details about it.

Five more minutes doesn't mean much to a child. Instead say something like, "after five more turns sliding down the slide, we will go home." 

Make it fun by counting up or down and get your toddler involved. 

4. Offer Choice

Your child is desperate for control. You might be surprised at how happy he or she is once you allow more autonomy.

Instead of telling your toddler what to do, offer a choice between two options. Would you like to have a bath or brush your teeth first?

Would you like to listen to music or a story in the car on the way to Grandma's?

By offering choices (within limits you have set) you allow your child to develop a sense of control on their environment. 

This also avoids the "no" fiasco when you ask your child to brush their teeth. Their growing young minds can't comprehend that "no" is a choice. Most of the time, they will make a choice. 

How to Deal with Temper Tantrums

As you know from experience, it is harder to diffuse a screaming toddler than it is to keep one content. 

Use these tips to prevent a tantrum and before you know it, your child will have passed the stage of tantrums.

Check out more of our blog posts to keep you informed about raising children. 

 

Baby Communication: The Essential Guide to Understanding Your Baby

Baby Communication: The Essential Guide to Understanding Your Baby

Babies don't usually talk until well into toddlerhood; the average child can start to string together sentences between 18 months and 2 years old.

There is nothing as sweet as the baby phase. Soon those gentle little coos will turn into adorable words, but for now, you're stuck guessing what your baby needs. 

While they won't be able to ask for milk or a diaper change just yet, if you pay close attention, you'll notice that there are trends in the way your baby communicates their needs. 

Besides facial emotion and body language, there are also distinctive types of baby cries that can alert you to whatever the problem is. Remember that each baby is unique, so it'll be up to you to recognize the cues.

This baby communication essential guide will help you understand just what it is that your baby is trying to tell you. 

The Building Blocks of Baby Communication

Touch, sounds, and meaningful glances; the beginning of your baby's life is full of communication. 

From the moment they enter the world, your baby is paying attention to everything around them. Through their senses, they are able to absorb new information all the time. This constant stream of knowledge and awareness will help them gain the ability to communicate. 

Make sure to talk to your baby, imitate sounds, and aid them in this communication journey. 

Crying 

Babies are born with the ability to cry. But what does their cry mean? Do they have a dirty diaper, are they hungry, or are they tired?

As your baby grows, they'll acquire new skills to communicate with you, but in the meantime, the cry may be the only way they can get their point across to you.

An upset cry may sound choppy and high-pitched, while a hungry cry might be a bit lower and short. 

Pay attention to their cries and what actions soothe them. Over time, you may recognize patterns in your baby's crying. 

Gestures

A reach up to your breast can mean that your baby is hungry. A nuzzle can signify that they are tired.

Use the sounds that accompany the gestures to best decipher what your little one is trying to say. 

When Should I Get Help?

If you hear a painful sounding cry or an unusual cry, make sure to get medical attention right away. It could be nothing serious, but crying is the major way your little one is going to communicate with you. 

Another thing to pay attention to is new sounds accompanied by odd behavior. If your baby is eating less, has fewer bowel movements, or is seeming less active than usual, call your doctor for advice. They could be sick or have a food allergy

Wunder What Your Baby's Saying? 

At Wunder, we are here for every step of your little one's adventure. From baby communication milestones to the best ways to feed your toddler, we cover the A to Z's of parenthood. 

On the go? Be sure to check out the Wunder Baby Tracker App to help keep track of every important moment you encounter on this beautiful journey.

Top 3 Reasons to Read to Your Child from Birth

Top 3 Reasons to Read to Your Child from Birth

Reading Aloud to Your New Baby Boosts Future Language and Reading Skills 

It may seem odd to read books aloud to your brand new baby, but plenty of research has shown how important it is. Not only is reading aloud to your baby a great way to bond and spend quality time together, it is also a proven way to boost your baby’s future language development, reading skills and much more. Once you understand the impact reading aloud has on your baby, you’ll be scheduling it into your daily routine right away.


Most parents know that reading to a school-age child is an important way to improve language and reading comprehension as well as encourage a lifelong love of reading. But what many new parents don’t know is that reading aloud to babies has been shown to have a significant and lasting impact on their language development. A 2017 research study entitled “Early Reading Matters: Long-term Impacts of Shared Bookreading with Infants and Toddlers on Language and Literacy Outcomes,” revealed that book-reading in early infancy and toddlerhood predicted child vocabulary up to four years later. It also showed that book-reading quality during early infancy predicted early reading skills while during the toddler-years, book-reading quantity AND quality were closely tied to emergent literacy skills.


According to the study’s lead author and researcher Carolyn Cates, PhD, “These findings are exciting because they suggest that reading to young children, beginning even in early infancy, has a lasting effect on language, literacy and early reading skills.” She goes on to say “What they’re learning when you read with them as infants still has an effect four years later when they’re about to begin elementary school.


The benefits of reading aloud continue as your child moves into toddler and school-age years.

Jim Trelease - author of The New York Times Bestseller “The Read-Aloud Handbook,” believes that very young children benefit greatly from parents reading aloud. He cites the results of “The Early Childhood Longitudinal Study” (which included 22,000 students) that found kindergarten children who had been read to at least three times a week had a significantly greater phonemic awareness than did children who were read to less often, and were almost twice as likely to score in the top 25 percent in reading readiness. Pretty compelling numbers from the simple act of reading books!

The well-known 1995 book “Meaningful differences in the everyday experience of young American children” established a scientifically substantiated link between children's early childhood experience and their eventual intellectual growth. The authors - Hart and Risley - spent years researching the roots of intellectual disparity. They observed 1 and 2 year old children in typical American families and found staggering contrasts in the amount of interaction between parents and children. These differences translated into shocking disparities in the children's vocabulary growth rate, vocabulary use, and IQ test scores.

Clearly, reading to your baby (and toddler) can create a whole host of benefits both now and in the future; setting your child up for greater levels of success. And all it takes is just ten minutes a day.

Reading to Your Baby May Also Have a Positive Impact on Future Behavior

Reading aloud to your baby has also been shown to potentially help his or her future behavior. In a compelling study, reading aloud and positive play during ages 0-5 was associated with improved behavior outcomes up to 4.5 years later. The study participants who were exposed to parents reading aloud and playing with them had more than a 60% reduction in hyperactivity and psychosocial risk. That study concluded that reading aloud and positive parental play from birth to 5 years could enhance social-emotional development.


Wondering what books are good for reading to your baby? Wunder has a library of our favorite books for you to enjoy with your baby! But truthfully, anything age-appropriate that you enjoy reading to your baby will work just fine. All that really matters is that you read aloud to your baby as soon as possible and as often as possible.